She’s not a pretty thing.
There is no clean packaging or simplicity.
We share a bath and her voice becomes loud in the still, wet darkness.
I do not try to drown her with positive affirmations, but just sit and listen, I become terrified.
Her rage grows, I try to shrink away, but choose to keep the space.
Sobs overtake and she shakes my core, pounds the water and I hear my screams through tears that haven’t fallen in too many months.
It’s too much. I can’t. I can’t. I can’t do this. I can’t do this anymore. I can’t be the sole bread winner and parent. I can’t keep up with everything. I can’t just let things go. I can’t keep keeping the peace and being the balance. I can’t do it.
My mind won’t stop, I feel like I can’t do it. I can’t do life, not this way, but I have to do it. I have to keep moving forward, my daughter needs me. I can’t lose my mind, but the noise won’t stop. I grab pen & paper and muddle out. “You can do it. Let the anger forge a path. You don’t have to keep doing it the same way. You don’t have to keep hurting. Change your story.”
I sit with my anger and she finally knows it’s safe to surface and fill the space we share.
I sit with my anger and she is allowed to express.
Instead of imagining what I could do but not acting on my ideations, because “I’m not that kind of person,” I free her. Anger grabs for whatever is within reach- soon the room is smashed. Shaving cream and shampoo and soap are thrown against walls, the trash can is knocked over, and, as if watching myself, I get out of the bath. I see photos hanging on hallway walls. Faces with false smiles look back at me- pain relived everyday in hopes of creating balance.
Pictures are burned. My story begins a new chapter.